Sunday, April 17, 2016

Mr. and Mrs. buy a car

Photo by Kelly Bauer
This week, my husband Chris and I bought a car together for the first time. From the beginning of the process, we learned a lot about ourselves, especially "ourselves" as a team.

When my 15-year-old car needed costly repairs, we had to figure out the best choice. Do we put the money into a car which already had a salvage title, or do we bite the bullet and put the money down on a "new to us" car and pick up a car payment, something I've never had to deal with? It made sense to put the money into something more reliable that would last for a long time, but it was a daunting decision. I couldn't even remember how to begin the car buying process. 

After talking it out (and asking family for a little advice,) we decided to take the plunge on something new. 

From there we started researching cars (with suggestions from family members) and tried to figure out what we could afford. When we narrowed it down, the reality (and nerves) of the situation set in.

Driving to the dealership, I started to worry. How do we act? Should we play good cop, bad cop? What if we totally get gypped? Would I even know if I was being gypped? 

No matter what happened, we agreed to agree on everything. Essentially, if one person felt nervous or a little unsure about the cars, the wheeling or the dealing, we'd talk it out before taking a step further. To some that may seem a little too cautious, but it meant I felt comfortable to ask the "dumb" questions and get absolutely everything answered. It also meant we were on the same page, which we both believe is incredibly important in our marriage. I mean, we were kissing away some of our wedding money, and that kind of stung.

In the end, we wound up with a decent deal on a car that we think will last us many years to come. Although I'm the primary driver of the car, we still call it "our" car and we take pride in the fact that we researched, bargained and paid for it ourselves. Sure, the fact that we acquired a car payment stings a little, but we're content with the lessons we've learned, and honestly, we love our car. If we had to do it again, I'd honestly probably do the same thing and still buy this exact car.

When I started this blog, I thought marriage would change me quite a bit on my journey to Becoming Mrs. LaRue. But honestly, my husband and I are learning so much about ourselves, and I think through the trials and tests, we are picking up so many valuable lessons.

Purchasing a car was a super intimidating process, but I'm glad I was able to have my best friend by my side. It's super cheesy, but we really do make a good team. There's no one else I'd rather be learning these life lessons with (while still taking the occasional piece of advice from my parents. After all, they've learned the lessons too -- it's good to learn from their experiences!)

2 comments:

  1. What kind of car did you get? Brand new or used? Until I got married, I never had a brand-new car, and I'll admit - the car-buying process is still pretty foreign to me! Luckily, my husband is sort of a pro at it, haha. Congratulations!

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  2. I think a car is probably the biggest purchase you'll make (other than a house) so it's a good way to work out how you want to go about spending money and getting a good deal. So glad you're happy with the end result.

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