I've started to realize a few things during my 25 years. None of these lessons came easy. I can proudly say I've mastered some, yet some are still in the works. Either way, these 10 life lessons have changed my life for the better...
You don't have to spend time with people you don't like.
Once I cut off ties with toxic people, my stress went out the window and my happiness went through the roof. (Cheesy but accurate!) Life is too short to spend with people who make you feel like dirt. You deserve better.
You can pause or start over at any time. It's your life!
I've had some stops and starts in my life. Blogging. College. My career. Don't worry about what other people think; take your time and figure out what you want out of life. Then go for it. If it's not what you thought it'd be, then stop, reevaluate and try something else. No one gets everything right on the first try.
That being said...
It's OK to have some failures.
Failures will happen. I'm still feeling burned by some of my "failures" in recent years. And although they may hurt and I may regret how some things turned out, I'm starting to realize that they all got me to the place I'm at right now. And I like that place. Instead of sulking in your failures, take away any lessons that you can, and then, when the time is right, move on.
Don't ever compare your life to others'.
This is one I'm just now learning. At 25, it's pretty easy to compare your life to your peers. They just bought a house, AND a new car! They have kids! They're doing so well! It's easy to take things at face value and assume because you don't have the same things, you're not doing well. That's not the case. You don't know their full story, and you're still working on yours. Let things happen as they're meant to.
Don't be so hard on yourself.
The world is going to be hard enough on you. Take care of yourself! If you can go to bed each night knowing that you did your best that day, you should be proud of yourself. Don't beat yourself up; you have one life and you've still got time to figure things out.
It's OK to ask for help.
And because no one gets everything right on the first try... Don't be afraid to make mistakes, but don't be afraid to ask for help. I used to feel too "proud" to admit I needed help, but it's OK to do it when you need it. It'll save you a lot of stress.
Dreams change. Goals change. It's normal.
I need this tattooed on my hand so I can remind myself of it daily. If I compared my current self to 16-year-old Jessi's dreams, I'd be a big failure today. But life changes, and your goals and dreams change with that. And it's OK to change them as many times as you like! I think my life will be full of those changes. After all, if we always stayed the same person with the same goals...we'd run out of things to do and get pretty bored, wouldn't we?
Make peace with the things you can't change.
Do your best with what you can, and everything else? Just forgetta about it! Easier said than done, I know, but it's worth a shot, right?
You're the only one in control of your life.
I've learned that it's important to realize you're in control. You can't blame a bad day or an unfulfilling life on a boss, friend, or husband. Why? Because you always have the power to make things better. Where there's a will, there's always a way. It may not be the way you originally imagined, but there will be a way, somehow.
Love is all you need.
Sounds silly, doesn't it? Sure, you have to have a job, and money to pay the bills, and a lot of other things, but at the end of the day, love is what you need. It feeds the soul, which is the most important thing of all. If you love, you will be loved in return, and there is no greater feeling than that. I hope I never stop chasing love.
What important life lessons have you learned? Please share!