Saturday, June 13, 2015

And We're Gonna Get Married...

We set a date.

After being engaged for six months, we set a date. It took us a while to get to this point because we realized one horrifying fact: Weddings are expensive. It won't take long for you to hunt down the statistic that the average cost of a wedding right now is $30,000. Well, with my student debt and the fact that we just started our careers...we don't exactly have anything close to that just lying around. So we thought we'd wait it out, maybe be able to save a chunk of change, and we could get hitched -- party and all.

Well, after browsing countless wedding sites, talking to family and friends, and most importantly, talking to each other, Chris and I decided the most important thing is the fact that we're marrying each other. After being together for more than five years and living together for two of those, we're ready for the next step. We're ready to be married. So we put our dreams of a fancy DJ and trinket guest favors aside, and decided on a much simpler occasion.

And we were finally able to set a date because of it.

We're getting married this October at a local chapel venue, which has a gazebo, chapel and beautiful grounds. The grounds will have orange and yellow trees by then, and our town thrives in fall. Literally. We even have a fall festival in town that weekend that brings in more than 100,000 people annually. We chose that weekend for the specific date, and because fall, in this town, is absolutely incredible. We've already started dreaming about our anniversary falling around this time of year, every year, for the rest of our lives, and the celebrations we can have with our children and grandchildren; seeing decorated pumpkins on the courthouse lawn and watching the big parade. It's small town life at its finest, and we love it.

So how are we cutting costs? Our ceremony will be incredibly simple, short and sweet at the gazebo, with less than 25 guests. We'll have an iPod hooked up for our music. We were also able to book a photographer I absolutely love. Our ceremony will be so small and intimate, he gave us a great deal.

Finally, our reception. Usually this is the bank buster, but not for us. We opted to rent a room at a local restaurant. The decor not only fits our fall theme, with dark colors and some twinkle lights, but the food is good, too. We can bring in a cake and hook up our iPod. And considering how important music is to me, you can bet I'll be carefully selecting each and every song for the evening. We also plan to rent an arch. We'll decorate it and set it up in the corner for photo opps. We plan to invite a few extra friends to the reception, which should bring our total number of guests to a whopping 40. Considering I'm one of few people who has less than 100 friends on Facebook, it wasn't difficult for us to determine who is really important to us.

This obviously cuts our cost quite a bit, but it also ensures we have time to devote to each and every person, especially those who are coming from across the country just for our big day. By making it intimate, we can show each and every person how much we appreciate their time and how much they mean to us. 

Other things, like outfits and flowers, aren't too big of a deal to us. Yes, we want them, and we are excited about them, but we realize they're simply details. This is a day we are going to remember for the rest of our lives, and we want to remember it as one we spent laughing, smiling and crying with family and friends, not one that forced our marriage to start in extreme debt. I think we've made the right choice for us.

How did you save on your big day?

1 comment:

  1. Setting a date is the first step! I can't believe how much people spend on weddings. It's ridiculous. We saved by having a lot of help. My dress was on sale, clearance actually, but it was perfect for me so who cares? Also, my grandmother has her own cake business so she made our cakes. We borrowed a majority of our decorations. The only things we bought or rented were the tablecloths, mason jars, candles, rocks and arch for the ceremony. We also saved by having everything in one place and the venue included chairs and tables and pre-strung lights. Be vigilant with whatever you decide to do with flowers. That's the one place I feel like we really got jipped. And if you splurge on anything, I'd suggest the photographer but that could just be because I love love love pictures!